” Don’t just b…

” Don’t just be a man , Be a Man every Woman wants.”


Be a Woman

Be a Woman

i look myself in the mirror , i often think
i am the man to my woman.
but i only think like this
it does not really change the world for me.
because this is how my woman is.
my woman is my woman no matter how she is.
she is mine.
i loved her i love her and i will love her
the way she was the way she is and the way she will become
i have accepted her.
but i want her to be strong.
i want to be a woman to a man.
i am man enough to face this world
i want her to become a woman to face this world.
who can stand head high and can say
”yes you are my man”
believe me , no better inspiration than this.
i don’t want my woman to become a woman who needs a man.
i want her to be the woman a man needs.
i want her to be my woman.

I Love You ! Is it tough to say and easy to stand by ?


You love her from the bottom of your heart and ready to do anything possible in a good way. you can’t live without her and think about her all the time. you are good enough to balance love and life and give ample space in relationship so that she don’t feel uncomfortable. you are ready for her whenever and wherever she needs you. you sacrifice everything to make sure that she remains happy and don’t let her know the pain you are going through.

Why you do all this ? what is the motive and what is the purpose ? what makes you do this ? what drives you and motivates you ?

Often you come across these questions in relationship and try to find what you are doing is right or wrong. or try to find if this is a right approach to relationship.

A guy and a girl going around for few months , they are happy together, everything is going nice . they compliment each other and dreams together to make their own small world. they say three magical words to each other ” I LOVE YOU ” and swear by it . things changes after sometime ,life changes ,priorities changes and they don’t say ”I LOVE YOU ” anymore to each other. it all seems to get over for them and they realize they made mistake by being together. they should never have said ”I LOVE YOU”. they regret their decision and move on with life to find someone else to say ”I LOVE YOU” again.


In today’s time its easy to say I love you every now and then since there is no shortage of love. you fall in love with one and break up after sometime to fall in love again. love has become so easy these days that we don’t give importance to it anymore and take it for granted and think that life is too short to live and there be no love tomorrow you better go searching for it now. may be we should not go searching for love outside. may be we should not go looking for that special someone outside. what we should do is to love ourselves first and make ourselves important and special so that what we are looking for comes to us , not we go out looking for it in this world.

This world has become very small now. social networks ,dating websites, communities have made it easy to develop relationship with people even from far end. you register yourself on dating websites ,pay the price for better services ,make a nice profile and post attractive images online to invite more and more viewers. the other day you log in to your profile only to see tons of emails in your inbox from people around who are looking to develop relationship with you. you feel happy and think that you have scored big one here and ready for another. Its a way of life and its ok to have this kind of approach and there is nothing wrong in it. Its all in the attitude , are you serious in your approach ? or are you only wasting your time and others.

Couples-in-Love-love-stories-15142617-395-400       Don’t give anyone any false hopes and don’t show them dreams which are out of reach. its not good to play with someone’s life nor its good to play with someone’s emotions. respect what you have , respect what you are about to get into. if you love a woman ,stay with her come what may . if you love someone so much that even if he / she walks away from you ,you still remain loyal to them ,don’t think you are out of the game or don’t think that you are no value to them , its the truth that they are missing you and they still love you . you love that special one so much and stayed loyal to them , you stayed with them at all times either near or far away but you are with them emotionally if not physically , value this in you that you are so strong that you are still moving on with life with this love which give you pain and makes you happy. its a love which you have always been proud of , its a love which has always made you feel more wanted and made you feel strong and motivated you to go any heights to make sure that the person you love knows that how much you love her/ him.

Even then ,  its easy to say that love don’t happen once but many times. yes its true , its does happen many times in one life. you can always have one love after another . you can always have good relationship after another. but again everything comes down to an approach . everything comes down an attitude.

When you feel you love someone and that someone is not good enough to realize your true value ask these questions to yourself .

what is the reason she / he not responding ?

why is she / he so quiet ?

why is she / he  not answering your phone calls or replying to your mails ?

why there is an attitude of ignorance ?

Matching-Tattoos-for-Couples-idea     It could be anything , any reason and any excuse will do to answer these questions. may be there is a possibility that he / she want you to move on with life and want you to be a better person . if this is how they are thinking you need to make sure that they understand that life don’t end with them . you need to make them realize that there is life without them and there is life after them. you should tell me that yes I loved you but I can still live without you. you cherish the time you had together and value your relationship and take pride in it , she / he know that and they still love you for everything but may be they don’t want to be with you. accept it . but don’t let them go out of your life. love them the way you have loved so far . stay loyal to them you may never know when they will need you again. trust them and have faith in the person you really loved.

Its easy to say ”I LOVE YOU ” but its tough to stand by it. its really tough to stay with person you love with today’s fast paced and ever changing life style. rarely you get people who are loyal to their once partners who have left them. people call this stupid but its not stupidity its taking pride in what you have valued ,its taking pride in what you have cherished.

You love your woman or man , make sure you stay with them ,come what may ,never leave them. this world is horrible at the same time its beautiful ,its all in the attitude. you want love , you give love . you want pain , you give pain.

Say ”I LOVE YOU” to someone special today and make sure you really mean it and stick to it . believe me it will come to you.

These three magical words are indeed magical , we only need realize its value ,to you may be these are only three letters but to someone its a matter of life and death.

Value it !

Not ”Observant” enough


Man fussing …………………………………….over what ?

Came across a friend of mine few days ago who got engaged recently , I was so happy to see her , unfortunately I did not attend her engagement ceremony but I had sent my best wishes to her. it was good to see her after a long time and I was happy to see her happy ,nothing seemed strange to me until she told me something over a cup of coffee. what she told me was heart breaking and I had felt the pain which she carried all over to meet me in person since she wanted to share it with someone and she called me to meet her at centralized location. I came over expecting nothing strange and she looked alright. what she told me has encouraged me write this post .

I will not mention her name but what I can tell is that she is a charming woman , highly educated with good paid job. been friend of fine for a long time now, but due to busy schedule we don’t get an opportunity to meet. this time we got a chance to decided to meet at CP over a cup of coffee. her story is not different from others. there are men in this world who are damn insecure and got no strength to fight over this society which I simply hate and I hate men who only know how to treat woman as a showcase item. woman Is much more than that. every men desires to have a woman who is beautiful charming lovely and educated but what they do forget is a woman who they aspire for is also just another body and she is not a machine or an item and she also need an emotional support just like everyone else.

375x321_truth_about_belly_fat        My friend is only 26 and recently got engaged to a man also good looking ,handsome and money maker. it was an arranged engagement but both liked each other. soon after her engagement it was not a fairy tale , it came out to be a reality check kind of thing. her fiance started commenting on her weight. though she was not over weight just little bulky but she caught an eye of her going to be husband. this is something she never expected. he made comments on her that he being a fit guy ,he also want his woman to look fit and slim. though he did not ask for a size zero but its tough for someone who is already size 32 and you want her to become 26 and that too soon as wedding is on the cards few months after. he stressed that she need to loose weight as she must look good on wedding day. at first it looked like a motivation but soon it turned into a nightmare when he even started checking on her if she is going to the gym or not, he even started sending her articles on fitness and spoke to her regularly about it. after a point there were frequent fights in this regard. once he commented ” you have such ugly arms and I need hot wife, don’t you want to be the same for me ‘ ? now she is in a phase where she failed to understand if her going to be husband loves her for who she is . she has lost confidence in herself and she feels fat ,very fat though she is not fat and she feels that it will never change.

She cried over on this and I had tough time making her feel relax. I can understand her pain and I can understand what she is going through, after all not every men is the same, every men and every women is different , takes different approach to deal with situations. some succumb to pressure some don’t.

Most men dread the ”Do I look fat in these clothes ?” questions asked by their girlfriend’s and wives , confused whether to tell a lie to not offend them and simply tell them the truth. but some men  miss no chance to criticize their partners over weight gain and how ugly she look. these men feel ashamed of being seen with their partners at social event and public place. a woman should be a strength for her man and any woman can do it irrespective of her body ratio and looks unless man takes his woman with confidence and strong enough to be with  her under any circumstances , everything is easy. but if situations is different and similar to my friends things do become ugly.

fit woman

Little do these men know that their alleged constructive criticism can be quite damaging to their women’s emotional well – being.

In most cases when a woman gains weight , she is unhappy about it. she never feel easy in gaining weight, as long as her partner has no problem with her weight issues she is happy , the moment she feels her partner is critical about her weight ,it become difficult for a woman to deal with it. This can happen with anyone , college goers to professionals who are the part of the society are more open to their bodies emotionally and sexually now, they are more open to discussion and open to feedback of any kind in fitness and relationships. this adds to pressure as people speak and it throws a direct impact on woman or a man who has fat issues. since here we are talking about woman ,lets keep it to woman.

College goers have age insecurities and professionals have pressure from society to look good. be it a man or a woman. a man with a paunch is considered a sign of prosperity while women are expected to achieve size zero. housewives as they consider it a part of their role to satisfy their family needs and wants, and end up feeling inadequate when criticized for their weight.

Women tend to be sensitive about their physical appearance and do tend to take care of looking attractive for their partners. its very important for a men to know that women looks at themselves through their partner’s eyes.so when they hear complaints about their weight from them they are likely to feel bad. they may feel inferior and may also worry about their physical intimacy with their boyfriend/husband. on the other hand ,when criticism is taken positively , they may be motivated to lose weight and try to live up to their partner’s expectations as subsequently  they want to be accepted by them.

getty_rf_photo_of_woman_grasping_bathroom_scale                          Here are the few advices I would like to give to men.

Men need to understand that being overweight is often a vicious cycle of emotional eating. I have seen it and I understood it and I never like to put my woman under pressure of losing weight since I know if taken care properly this can be back to normal.

a ) Society is already putting women under lot of pressure and the most important person in their lives also being critical will only add to this problem. never criticize woman over weight issues. instead ,advice should be given positively. it should be a positive conversation not a criticism. it can also be said in a way which only helps woman in loosing weight as she gains weight will only invites to boredom , disease ,unhealthy life style and laziness. there are ways to say a same thing in a different manner yet deliver a right message.

b) Women need to be encouraged to stay healthy , fit and happy with all the focus not being on the weighing scale.

c) Support your partner and establish that weight need not to be equated with self – esteem.

d) Take part in activities as a couple like sports or dance which both enjoy and make keeping fit fun.

Here boyfriend’s or husbands or men need to be observant enough to their women. its very important that men should observe their women.

I do not wish to say more here since I guess men who are ignorant enough will still not understand what I am trying to say here. my friend left with a smile after talking to me that day and I hope her man will understand her soon and everything will be fine. but unfortunately it takes a lot to fight with the society you live in for your partner. here I really give a pat to myself for being different with other as I am strong enough to fight with this society for my woman. I will never and I do not wish to treat my woman like this and ever want tears to her eyes, men and woman both are strength to each other and its a responsibility of a man to stay strong with his woman under any circumstances and be with her at all times no matter what happen.

I only wish to be a pole of strength to my woman and only to instill confidence in her and to make her feel emotionally well being.