” Never give up , great things in life come late
” Never give up , great things in life come late
Recently i came across an article which was about a man from india who travels about
250 km to do his duty.he drives a car and go all the way to do his job and
covers 200 plus kilometres.he also returns from his duty in the evening and
covers the same distance so in all he complete a stretch of 500 km. all in one
day. So you can imagine the time he spend on roads. He leaves his family about
5 hours prior to job so that he can reach in time. When he returns home most of
his family members go to sleep. So because of the distance he covers , his social
life , family life also gets affected . But as they say duty calls. So he does
his duty with utmost responsibility.
people wonder why So much sacrifice for one job which is so far from home? I do
not wish to travel this much even if I get paid heftily. I have life besides
work which is important to me and so as the case with everyone. But even then
sometimes we give more importance to work than life because we know
life can’t be without work. We can’t earn our living without a job. To survive
in this world we must move out of our home and sweat hard to help ourselves and
others. No one is going to help you for free and you can’t expect anyone to
come forward and support you as everyone is concern about worries and hardships
life brings to them.
see people travel far distance to earn their living. Even though they hate
their job and do not wish to continue with their services because they don’t
want to cover far distance.but they have no choice and have no option but to
continue with their job and travel. What makes them do they don’t want
to do ? What makes them continue with something they don’t wish to do ? Why do
we see limited options for ourselves? Why do we limit ourselves to small things
and shy away from big changes?
because we don’t wish to take risks and we do not want to leave our comfort
zone. We want things to be simple and not complicated. But those who take risks
often end up with something new while others don’t. People cover miles and
miles in search of something new and when we don’t find it we settle for
lot of distance for our duty but how far we can go? This is something which
only you can answer.
What is an escape ?
An escape is a way out of something which we don’t like or like.
Now it can be anything. you can also escape from something which you don’t want to loose or you can escape from something which is very close to your heart. We are scared of number of things and we have number of fears. We have insecurities but we don’t tell this to anyone only because we don’t want to tell anyone that we are weak. Being insecure is not a weakness but it’s natural for us to be insecure. That’s what make us humans. And a human will have an urge to escape from something.
Life is a box of chocolates as said in a famous Hollywood blockbuster “Forrest Gump”. But it’s not like this in actual life. We all hope that life will become a box of chocolate or at least close to it but things don’t fall in place as we expect them to be. Hence future is unpredictable and so we have insecurities. We all try to run from our insecurities as we don’t want to face them. We all want to be good and want to have good life but to make our life good we must go through hardships. If we don’t then life will have no motive and we don’t want to live without any objective.
So there is no escape from hardships and difficulties. We must toil and sweat hard to make our life purposeful. We must have a mind without any doubts when we begin our day. We must know what to do on a given day to get the job done. There are no excuses and there is no escape.
Some wise guy said “ two of the most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day when you know why.
Nobody tells us our purpose when we grow but as we come in contact with our society we realize that people around us are only to let us know our purpose. People teach us all the time and tell us what to do and what not to do. Life becomes a kind of show where we act but director is someone else and somebody writes a script.
You are time
I often see people complaining or cribbing about time. Time which they don’t have.time which is defined in 24/7 for everyone but even then people have number of things to say about how less time they have for the activities they want to do. They crib about they are busy all day and have very less time for themselves. It’s also understandable and obvious to say that we all live very busy life. In times of technology where every month we have one smartphone launch in the market , where we see one brand new car on the roads and it populates the city but we don’t complain , in times of social activities which takes place on social media such as what’s app, viber, Facebook and MySpace, it’s an irony that we have so many tools available to make our lives simple but even then we find no time for ourselves.
We don’t need rocket science to understand what time is and how important it is for us. We don’t need to be an expert to understand how to make best use of our time. But unfortunately even then most of us fail miserably in this task and waste so much of our time which is so important to us.
Now let’s understand what is a willpower and why it’s so important. In fact it’s one of the most important aspect of our personality but we don’t pay attention to it. This is something which has us failed in number of ways but we are not ready to work on it. It’s our responsibility to focus on what we think is working against us. If we know what is going wrong and we know how to make it right , we can end up simplifying lot of things and can get tasks done.
In simple words will power is an urge from within to get the job the done. Either good or bad it’s applicable to both tasks.
You are time.
When I say you are time it simply means that time is in your control. In your control not in terms of time travel but in terms of time management. Efficient use of time can lead to efficient way of life.
How to help yourself ?
We have so many resources at our disposal to help ourselves and get number of jobs done in a day. We can watch videos from YouTube. There are number of channels and numerous experts to help you with time management. We can use keywords to browse information on Google and we can find number of blogs on time management.
I am not here to tell you the ways to manage your time. Because so much information is available at your desk and we can use the same to make our life better.
So show some willingness and get the job done with no excuses.
I still remember the day when i saw your face for the first time and it was like a guiding light. i always see the sun shining in the sky but it was amazing to see you on earth like a sun shining for me.i still remember the day when i first touched you and kissed you and it was the moment we both waited for so long and so impatiently. we wanted to be together but god had different plans for us , it kept us waiting waiting and waiting or may be we both kept ourselves waiting for each other. we hoped that this wait would be over soon and we will be together holding each other arms and looking deep into each other eyes. i remember you said once you will never leave me and you loved me more than anything else on this planet . i still remember you said once i am the most important man in your life and you can not live without me. i remember everything and i can still recall all this like it was yesterday.
But i feel so sorry for those who love and they find later in a day that one of them is not honest and will part ways leaving you behind in tears and with heart aches. i feel sorry for those who think love is a blissful feeling but they don’t know that one of them is not going to stay for long and will move out of your life and will ask you to move on.
Have you moved on ? have you forgotten everything which you loved about and cared about and kept your past under the warps and felt like nothing had happened? have YOU moved on thinking that i wished i had never loved you so much because i had to bear so much pain ? have you moved on thinking that everything will be fine and its ok to leave someone who loved you so much in pain ?
My response is , that i moved on but only with your love. yes i cried and yes i wanted you back , i begged , i pleaded, i did everything possible i can to have that love again because its only your love i lived for. but unfortunately your cold and stoned heart did not melt. i knew your pain was immense but my pain was not less either , the problem is that you never tried to get back to me and i took every possible step to get back to you. now i think it was my mistake , not to love you but to take a step towards you was a mistake.
I wish i had not loved you so much but trust me no man will ever again love you so much as much as i loved you. i had lot of pain accepting it but i accepted it that may be my love was not enough for you , may be i was not good enough for you, may be i fell short in expectations but i was still GOOD enough to be with you through out your life. i was still be good enough to protect you and to feed you and to raise our kids. but you had different plans.
I moved on and i came across number of women right after our breakup but i never told you only because i was committed to you and never wanted to tell you that there is someone else who is trying to take your place. i cried for you only because i saw my honest love fading and i saw you getting cold and cold and stoned. i had sleepless night but i was still alive , i had wet eyes but i had heart beating , i skipped food but i was still strong and had plans to see you and i did , i was so happy to see you again only because this is what i ever wanted. but i left again.
Oh baby ! what a mistake you made and i feel pity for you , you left me and it was your loss and i want to tell you how badly you have suffered and will suffer, you will realize your mistake and you will regret your decision. you left me but i patched my life and heart and took everything in my stride but while all this i had also hide number of things from you. things which i never wanted you to know while my love for you was still alive. it’s one of the biggest mistake in life you have ever committed and you will pay the price for it. i don’t want you to suffer but you will suffer. i am not angry and i am not upset with you but i only want you to realize that what you have done to yourself.
Yes you moved on too, yes you have another man in your life or may be number of men but it’s not me and i am not them. you were so lucky to have me in your life but i never considered myself unlucky too. i was blessed to have your love but unfortunately you never found my love blissful to you.
it’s ok ! i forgive you for what you have done because you have gone through enough punishment already but there is more to come , but i want you to know that all this while i loved you and i still love you , it’s only my love which can make you escape from the pain you never wanted to bear.