I don’t know why but I have this phobia which can be called as water phobia ,now it does not mean that I don’t take shower or have any problem with water on my skin ,its not like this. when I say water phobia it only means that I can not stand against deep water or I get very scared of water when I see it from above through a window of an airplane or I see it from the boat if I am in the ocean. even when I see water images on screen or on television I get scared and it stays in my mind for a long time. everyone has phobias ,every one has their own fears. now fears are all of different kind, I don’t want to get into the technicality of fears since they are all science terms ,I can easily google the information and post it here about what phobias or fears are all and the terms they are known in . but this is my blog , my thoughts and my emotions so I would rather write it in my own words then copying it from somewhere.
I have a friend who is scared of heights. he can’t go any near to the edge of a building or anywhere near to the tower to look below. but he is a very good swimmer and he loves water . on the contrary I have no problem with heights but I can’t go near to water around ocean or can’t do swimming since I see deep pool bed which gives me phobia. I want to swim in the pool and I know , me being an athletic guy I would love to swim since its a good exercise for a body . but still I can’t go to swim ,I don’t know what stops me from doing what I want to do but I can’t go to swimming pool alone to swim. if I am in the group its alright for me , I will have people around me to help me swim which will give me motivation and strength to fight my fear but you asking me to go alone to the pool or even to the ocean , sorry I can’t do it.
Fear is the biggest enemy one can have . its something which stops us from doing what we want to do. even if we are self motivated ,strongly built and mentally tough but if we got fear in our mind we can’t do it . Fear of future , fear of unknown , fear of heights, water , spiders, insects, animals and others . there are so many fears you can count on. funny thing is that one of my friend who had once bad experience with dog when she was young , now has dog phobia, anywhere on the streets she see dogs she screams and you can feel the terror in her eyes, to me its funny and me being naughty I often play with it in humor but she know that I am there to fight for with her fear so she is cool with it . I love dogs and I do not have such dog phobia. why there would be such dog phobia ? dogs been friend to us for ages. but people are different and so as their phobias.
To me fear is not real . fear is a product of mind which we can easily make with over active thoughts or over visualization and by creating things in our mind which does not exists in real. to get out of fears its important that we take control of our thoughts and do not let them go wild. if thoughts go wild we will create images in our mind and it will develop fear of unknown. its easy to understand what I am trying to say here. we all have imaginations and we all have creative minds and it can make anything out of it. anything which does not exist.
For instances , there are people who have fear of open spaces. they can’t go to open spaces like a big playground or roof top or may be a big parking lot. now I know a guy who had interest in ufo’s and aliens and paranormal activities. he used to do research on these subjects and had seen images and video’s many times. now his condition is that he has a fear of open spaces. he can’t go to open spaces alone or even if he does he will always have fear in his mind which always stops him from doing things which he want to do. if in group he is fine but if you ask him to go to any such place alone , he will still go but with fear in his mind.
Now do not misunderstand me here , danger is real but not fear, here danger and fear are closely related. danger comes with fear not vice versa. when in danger one should be good enough to calculate or evaluate the danger and then take next action. fear is important here since fear lets us evaluate and it lets us decide what to do next.so its very important to have fear in mind as it stops us from taking not required decisions.
Yes fear is not real . I do not have to go in detail on this one. its only a state of mind and the state of mind we are in decides our next course of action. if we can control our fear we can control our actions and there by creating our own destiny , I have always believed in creating my own destiny and believed in being a doer. yes things may not turn out to be as you want them to be always but you can be sure about controlling your own actions since they will decide the course of your life. as far as I understand that if I can control this water phobia of mine , I can always win over this fear and I can always go into the ocean or to the swimming pool without being afraid of the unknown ,something which is not there but in my mind.
Control your fears and you will control your actions.
Dheeraj Gautam 