Month: April 2013

Fear is not REAL

~ Dheeraj Gautam ~ 1 Comment

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I don’t know why but I have this phobia which can be called as water phobia ,now it does not mean that I don’t take shower or have any problem with water on my skin ,its not like this. when I say water phobia it only means that I can not stand against deep water or I get very scared of water when I see it from above through a window of an airplane or I see it from the boat if I am in the ocean. even when I see water images on screen or on television I get scared and it stays in my mind for a long time. everyone has phobias ,every one has their own fears. now fears are all of different kind, I don’t want to get into the technicality of fears since they are all science terms ,I can easily google the information and post it here about what phobias or fears are all  and the terms they are known in . but this is my blog , my thoughts and my emotions so I would rather write it in my own words then copying it from somewhere.

I have a friend who is scared of heights. he can’t go any near to the edge of a building or anywhere near to the tower to look below. but he is a very good swimmer and he loves water . on the contrary I have no problem with heights but I can’t go near to water around ocean or can’t do swimming since I see deep pool bed which gives me phobia. I want to swim in the pool and I know , me being an athletic guy I would love to swim since its a good exercise for a body . but still I can’t go to swim ,I don’t know what  stops me from doing what I want to do but I can’t go to swimming pool alone to swim. if I am in the group its alright for me , I will have people around me to help me swim which will give me motivation and strength to fight my fear but you asking me to go alone to the pool or even to the ocean , sorry I can’t do it.

fear1        Fear is the biggest enemy one can have . its something which stops us from doing what we want to do. even if we are self motivated ,strongly built and mentally tough but if we got fear in our mind we can’t do it . Fear of future , fear of unknown , fear of heights, water , spiders, insects, animals and others . there are so many fears you can count on. funny thing is that one of my friend who had once bad experience with dog when she was young , now has dog phobia, anywhere on the streets she see dogs she screams and you can feel the terror in her eyes, to me its funny and me being naughty I often play with it in humor but she know that I am there to fight for with her fear so she is cool with it . I love dogs and I do not have such dog phobia. why there would be such dog phobia ? dogs been friend to us for ages. but people are different and so as their phobias.

To me fear is not real . fear is a product of mind which we can easily make with over active thoughts or over visualization and by creating things in our mind which does not exists in real. to get out of fears its important that we take control of our thoughts and do not let them go wild. if thoughts go wild we will create images in our mind and it will develop fear of unknown. its easy to understand what I am trying to say here. we all have imaginations and we all have creative minds and it can make anything out of it. anything which does not exist.

For instances , there are people who have fear of open spaces. they can’t go to open spaces like a big playground or roof top or may be a big parking lot. now I know a guy who had interest in ufo’s and aliens and paranormal activities. he used to do research on these subjects and had seen images and video’s many times. now his condition is that he has a fear of open spaces. he can’t go to open spaces alone or even if he does he will always have fear in his mind which always stops him from doing things which he want to do. if in group he is fine but if you ask him to go to any such place alone , he will still go but with fear in his mind.

fearNow do not misunderstand me here , danger is real but not fear, here danger and fear are closely related. danger comes with fear not vice versa. when in danger one should be good enough to calculate or evaluate the danger and then take next action. fear is important here since fear lets us evaluate and it lets us decide what to do next.so its very important to have fear in mind as it stops us from taking not required decisions.

Yes fear is not real . I do not have to go in detail on this one. its only a state of mind and the state of mind we are in decides our next course of action. if we can control our fear we can control our actions and there by creating our own destiny , I have always believed in creating my own destiny and believed in being a doer. yes things may not turn out to be as you want them to be always but you can be sure about controlling your own actions since they will decide the course of your life. as far as I understand that if I can control this water phobia of mine , I can always win over this fear and I can always go into the ocean or to the swimming pool without being afraid of the unknown ,something which is not there but in my mind.

Control your fears and you will control your actions.

Dogs don’t need MONEY

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Every day I look out of my window and see the sun ,every night I go to my roof top and I see the moon , common in both :- they shine brightly. they are right up there in the sky with peace and calm , they have nothing to worry about and they  enjoy the space they get in the huge sky with other family members of the galaxies. they shine so brightly and they love humans to shine in their light.

Ever wondered what sun and moon don’t need to shine so brightly ? …………………………….They don’t need money.Dog with money

But we humans do need money to shine brightly , money is the essence of life for us, without money we can’t survive, yes money is that important. but why we give so much importance to money ? its because money is everything to us humans. I spoke about looking out of the window and seeing sun or the moon but I did not mention about humans who I see running all the time from one pole to another to make money and to make life more and more comfortable since money lets us buy things which makes our life easy. so much so for money , it buys everything.

But even then there is something which money can’t buy …………………………….its happiness and love .

I love dogs or say I am an animal lover , I love animals for their unconditional love and this is exceptional in dogs, humans been living with dogs for ages now and this animal has become a part of life for us humans. we see dogs everywhere , in the homes as pets or with military doing duties or with people in need for emotional touch in hospitals. dogs play all these roles efficiently . I love this animal I really do . I love dogs for their unconditional love.

Ever wondered where this unconditional love come from in dogs ?

One of my dear friend asked me this question a while ago about dogs , we were discussing about animals and their unconditional love which they show to us humans and humans being the most intelligent species on planet earth but even so hostile and aggressive.

She asked me ,why animals specially dogs have this unconditional love for humans and we humans being so intelligent don’t show the same to them ?

dog-and-human              I knew the answer , for some reason  I had an idea why its like this , I knew what to say and how to describe but it was a good question. we do feel it all the time in our life about dogs and the other animals but we as humans can ‘t feel and neither do the same to animals.

want to know how humans treat animals :- watch Farm to Fridge on www.youtube.com

So I gave her my response and its my own theory and this is how I feel about it . so kindly do not laugh at it .

Human is the most intelligent species on this planet and the most superior one. it beats any given species on this planet any given day. this is because humans have brains which is the most intelligent and sophisticated among the rest living on this planet . we are also blessed with best body type to live under any circumstances , under any conditions, or we can get our body protected by various means since we are so intelligent that our brain lets us think and make things which are suitable for us. this is all due to the brain and its sophisticated working type in tandem with body.

Now when it comes to animals unlike humans their brains are not so intelligent or sophisticated to work with technology or material to make their life comfortable though nature has given them their own way dealing with things but its still not at par with when it comes to human.

As shall we were talking about money , what dog has to do with money ? we give food to dog he will eat but if we give money to eat he will not eat or say he don’t know how to make use of money to his benefit.

imagesCA2HRP30Lets do the same to human . we give food to human , he will eat and if I give money to human he will still eat ,what ? not the money but human knows how to make use of this money to eat food. a human will go and buy the food and will eat it , unlike dogs who do not know how to make use of this money to buy food.

What’s the difference ? the difference is the brain .

Its the brain which makes dogs love so unconditional its because dogs do  not see options for themselves, dogs only see one thing which is service. dogs only want to serve those who he gets love from. like if I feed a dog with food ,dog will always be loyal to me and will always be with me irrespective of me feeding food to dog or not ,but once dog shows its love to me ,he will always be there. since dog only see love which he gets from us humans and do not see anything or any other option to make choice for himself. on the other hand since humans have the most intelligent brain, we have created options for ourselves and we can make choices. we know if there is something which is not good for us or we not getting happiness from , we can always move to another thing to get happiness, but dogs are not like that , they only see love and no other options which we humans can see ,for us there are multiple ways to get love ,we humans feel that we can even buy love and happiness with money . but dogs don’t know how to make use of this money so they have no choices to make no options to choose from .they only want love which they get from us and show their love to us also and its always unconditional .will always be unconditional.

Dogs don’t want Money but we humans do , we can’t do without money and now there is a wrong notion about money that it let us buy anything we want even love and happiness. a guy with penny can still be happiest of all since he has nothing to loose and a guy with millions can not still be happy since he has so much to loose.

lets show our conditional love to not only animals but also to humans and  to each other because we know that we can always have love for love which does not require money to buy and we can always have happiness for happiness which does not need options to choose from.

A Blind Ghost in Black Overcoat

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We all aspire to become a Leader someday , we all want to be rich famous and lovable by all . we all have his instinct to strive for the best and go for the kill ,where and when it requires we go for it . we as human are opportunists , as soon as we see one we don’t care about the right or wrong we just want to take advantage of an opportunity and make use of it for our own benefit .

This world has become a crazy place and its been like this for some time now and I have started thinking where this all craziness is leading us to.is there any purpose of even thought provocative idea to live life here on this planet earth. I mean look , I am not a Scientist or a Scholar or Philosopher , the things I am talking about here in lay man term , as I want to keep things simple and easy to understand , have not we made this earth a Battle Ground ? this home where we live , instead of staying and living a peaceful and happy life we have decided to make battle out of it only to see other’s loosing which gives us smile and makes us happy . how bad. how can you even be happy while you give pain and sorrow to others and you be standing there on top and smiling like a Winner? you can’t be happy by creating problems for others and you can ‘t be happy by creating someone’s life a misery. I mean oh common ! its not making your damn furniture shine anyway.

kim  Lets talk about A Ghost in The Black Over Coat which we see on Television ,Newspapers ,   Tabloids , Internet . this guy is everywhere but all for wrong reasons. its nice to be famous or infamous by doing what you wish to do but all for wrong reasons but hey he be happy , he is getting what he deserves the most , an attention from the world and hey he is famous.

A modern day Hitler trying to take this world on the verge of world war 3. what we got here :- USA , NORTH KOREA , SOUTH KOREA , CHINA , JAPAN, INDIA, PAKAISTAN , IRAN , IRAQ, god damn it ! all the big nations are into this , ASIA be a war zone. I don’t understand this tactic. now you tell me SOUTH KOREA AND NORTH KOREA been divided for ages now and even today there been disputes between the two since then and now they are trying to involve the entire world in their conflicts. well I understand that NORTH KOREA been angered due to joint military exercise between USA and SOUTH KOREA which off course it did not like, so it had to come up with its anger against USA and cause direct threat to USA and SOUTH KOREA and to the rest of the world. oh well ! I don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow and this Ghost in The Black Over Coat has given the deadline to humanity that the action will be taken after 10th of April , I guess Kim Jong Un had decided the End Of The World 10th April 2013 ,oh well ! poor MAYAN’S they were wrong ,its been over 101 days since 21st Dec 2012 but nothing happened to this day ,something may just about to take place. oh god ! where are all we going ?

Kim Jong UnI remember and I saw it on Television when Kim Jong Il (1941 – 2011) died. he was a Leader and a Dictator ,ruled North Korea for over the years and violated human rights. Even then there was a mass crying over his death , like a Father Of Nation died and kids are crying , I can understand the sentiments and emotions here , I am also human just like others . I understand the Psychology here and how it works but somewhere sometime we became blind and ignored or compromised on purpose over the Deeds Of The Man. was he wrong or was he right during his regime ? Is the question to which we can debate now but to those people for whom he was nothing less than a father ,he was doing everything right. how pity and how sad it is that the state of mind been influenced by one man’s father figure. I saw him speaking from the podium like a Ruler or a Leader or a Dictator but he was the one who influenced people with his personality similar to Hitler , we all remember Hitler for what bad he has done to humanity during his era but we all forget that he was a man who influenced people with his thoughts and his words and his speech. wish if he had done similar for the goodwill of people , for an upliftment of the society ,world could have been a better place today.

_59119706_north_korea_ranges_2 After the death of his father Kim Jong Il , Kim Jong Un took over the control of North Korea but he too similar to his father violated everything in the books. he is no different from his father , ordering to kill defectors ,conducting public executions and sending people to political prison camps are to name a few. I don’t understand this tactic to rule the country . oh well ! that’s what is his mindset and that’s what he has become A Ghost In The Black Overcoat.

He is taking this world to the edge of world war 3. what he is doing is solve no purpose to humanity . by showing his arrogance and threat to rest of the world he is doing no good to his people , war anyway is no good for anyone , we saw it in Vietnam war , we saw it when USA invaded IRAQ and Afghanistan. loss of human lives in the form of civilians or the military is only a loss of human from the surface of this earth. strings of things will happen from now on. every decision , every word and every speech will make an impact to this world ,though USA is taking NORTH KOREA threat seriously but it don’t think that Kim Jong Un will take this suicidal step to war against USA and South Korea. This step will force USA to retaliate and I know it will not only be USA but other countries as support or anti support ,will take part in this battle which will turn into a war and will divide the world into two.

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Nothing is safe in the NORTH KOREA at the moment and the entire world is watching closely. all the Foreign Embassies have been told to close down their offices and return to their respective countries since Pyongyang do not guarantee their security. they have even deployed MUSUDAN 4000 km missiles at its borders for immediate attack. US has postponed its planned test of Minuteman 3 ballistic missile since it might get misinterpreted by Pyongyang. its a good step. why provoke someone who is already a threat to millions of people to cause further harm. he is only been verbal so far and is taking  steps now. but his steps  has not been turned into actions yet. this is the biggest fear , he may take actions. whatever happens this is for sure that each and every country of ASIA will take advantage of this. China will solve its own purpose with Pakistan, India again will place its peaceful role or as a mediator to calm down the entire operation, IRAN – IRAQ will have their own things to do and USA as always tries to be a supreme power by ingesting billions or dollars into the war and there by taking part in it .

image    Lets take a moment to think about all this ,can’t it be nice guy thing only by taking few good steps of kindness and to make all this a better place to live , why war ? why showing off its military might and fight which solves no purpose ? why fulfill one man’s arrogance and bear the disadvantage later ? why look at one man’s psychology and compromising on our happiness only to let it happen for no good.

Hey I am only talking like a normal guy here and I am too like you among billions of others but these words are mine and I do not intend anyone to follow me or to follow what I have written . all I say follow yourself but do not follow anyone who is like A Blind Ghost In The  Black Overcoat.